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My Story of Feminine Evolutionary Leadership

I was not born as a radiant leader. Early in my life my grandmother and my mother (my female lineage) recognised the leadership in me: Being the eldest of three kids I was the leader of the tribe – and I needed to become an intelligent leader in my tribe as my two younger silbling are brothers with a strong will, too.

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The rest of the world experienced me as a shy girl, an introvert, happy to be alone in the company of a good book. At school I didn’t belong to the “cool clique”, I felt mobbed and frozen out. I learned to be enough with myself. I learned to remain true to myself, not living a lie, just to fit in, but to stay with my truth – although at that time I was not in the position to name it that self-confident way.

During my late teenage years I worked as tutoress. I realized that teaching the content of Latin and maths as well as doing homeworks with the kids was only a minor part of my success. I supported my pupils to build up an inner leadership (concentration, dedication, awareness, organisation, …) which became the foundation for their greater ability to perform at tests.

After difficult teenage years life became easier at university. Only 12 % of the students at Technical Physics were female. So each woman had a tribe of male friends around her. 😉 I realized only later how much I influenced them just by being me in this tribe of mine. I became the trusted member that was chosen to hear life challenges and to be asked for advice.

In my times as a senior student I started to teach tutorials in Mathematical Methods of Theoretical Physics once a week. Standing in front of a huge (mainly male) group of students was – surprisingly – such an easy task for the former shy girl. The main medicine (from my point of view) was the message: “Hey, folks, it’s doable!” I strengthened their confidence by taking away the “heavy sensation” that so often comes with the term alone: Mathematical Methods of Theoretical Physics. 😉

To write my PhD I spend 3 years at CERN and found myself working in the students’ office at Theory Division. I guess you can imagine that most of the time I was the only female student which put me again in a “special” position. Naturally I was in a trusted leadership position – not so much in the field of physics! 😉 – but in all matters of life aside of theoretical physics.

With three other students we founded UNTG club – where UNTG stands for Upstairs Not Too Good! 😉 Our common denominator was that we were able to be happy and smiling despite all worries about PhDs, fellowships, and grades. My dear friend Adrian stated one of the main rules in the club: “Trust Uli!” 😉

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Well, my time in science came to an end, I changed into the field of business, banking to be straight. I was assigned with the function of a quant – you know, those nerds behind the computer, doing strange calculations that nobody else understands… But soon I found myself in the de-facto position of a project manager, taking a firm stand to implement the result of my computations into a banking software. I had an integrating function – the trusted person all stakeholders could talk to. I was the hub in the middle, reaffirming everybody that they are understood.

Again I changed my job, this time I entered a business consulting company that was currently establishing a new business branch. I didn’t lead the group, instead I brought in my medicine of being able to talk to (and in front of) board members – and to understand their needs and intentions.

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My first child interrupted that career and initiated me into a new form of leadership: conscious evolutionary mothering / parenting. Later in my life two more children would join the tribe challenging me to become clearer and clearer on my values, my vision, my motives, my beliefs, and my boundaries. Taking a strong stand against violence and competition (in games, movies, relationships) and for benevolent cooperation was and is a learning-by-doing bootcamp in inner and outer leadership. Managing the physical, psychological, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs of our family is a rewarding, yet challenging experience of leadership! 😉

After the birth of my first son I was initiated into the field of politics. In Austria’s Green party I found a fertile soil for my wish to become part of the solution – and a fertile soil for women to quickly grow into leadership positions. For years I was the chair woman of my party in the local government. What I learned about leadership at that time would fill books! 😉 Let me mention the importance of appropriate communication channels and of mission statements.

After the birth of my second child, my only daughter, I founded my company, weripower. Being self-employed offers me a huge pack of possibilities (freedom, flexibility, following my heart…) as well as a huge pack of responsability (finance, planning, marketing, …). weripower has been an area of growth ever since I founded it! 😉

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As a coach I am a compassionate leader through the coaching process, holding a safe space for the coachees to explore their inner realms. As a teacher of workshops and a facilitator of groups I emphasize benevolence and cooperation. The safe space is crucial for group processes – it’s my job to be present with my core values holding the bigger vision for the group.

By a natural process of growth I became the trusted coach and trainer of leaders: entrepreneurs, directors, senior managers. This is the point where I realized how much leadership is in all of us who take a public stand for their core values, who want to be part of the solution, who want to make a difference in the world.

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My research in the field of leadership leaves me with the realization that there is a common path to Feminin Evolutionary Leadership:

  1. initiation – the soul’s wakeup call
  2. inner leadership – how to manage myself, how to root myself in my inner truth
  3. purpose – why am I here, dharma, vocation
  4. outer leadership – how to inspire action, how to hold a safe space for a team

Moreover I found 9 feminine archetypes showing us the way into Feminin Evolutionary Leadership. But this is a different story for a new article! 😉 If you speak / read German, I am happy to introduce you to those qualities in my article and workshop curriculum!

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I am here. I am holding space.

Dear Courageous Soul,

I come with my commitment to practice:

I am here. I trust you. I see your greatness. I see your creativity at work to inhabit more and more of your potential and greatness.

I hear your concerns. I hear your laughter, I taste your tears. Your darkness will not shy me away. I stay here, rooted in my commitment to be here. In owning my own darkness I am able to keep my eyes, my mind, my heart wide open when facing your darkness.

winter_roseI celebrate you and your creativity to find answers to the twists and turns of life. I connect to the infinite being that you are – behind the facades of physical life. I trust that source of yours so deeply. I trust that you walk your path. I feel your commitment to be as useful and effective as possible.

I don’t deny the challenging factors in life. You don’t have to persuade me how heavy life weighs on your shoulders. I sense it. I believe what you say.

And I believe in you. You have all you need to handle this situation in you. I respect your decisions. I trust your innate wisdom. I trust that in every given moment you respond to life in the best way you can. I trust you.

I don’t need to advise you, because I trust your own wisdom. You are an expert of your life.

I listen to what you say – but not to advise you! I listen to you because I know that speaking about one’s situation clarifies it and gives access to new ideas and forgotten resources. I trust you. If you ask me for advice, I will tell you what worked for me in the past in my particular situation while bearing in mind that your situation is different from what I experienced.

When holding space I will invite you to not only speak from your mind, but move deeper into your heart and into your body – to ground your experience in order not to get lost in the mental bubble. I will listen to your words and your body with the intention that you sense yourself again, that you reconnect with yourself, that you see yourself with fresh eyes.

My heart opens up while I tell you this – because I celebrate you and your gifts and your creativity. I celebrate that you walk this planet with us all right now. I celebrate what you want to give to life, to the world, to humanity. I don’t take that for granted.

I celebrate what you are becoming in this very process that you are experiencing right now.

This is my commitment to practice.

With love and admiration,
Uli, your Soul Sister

Honoring the process

On the feminine evolutionary path we follow the longing in our hearts. But: How to deal with disappointment when we don’t see any results?

Dear Courageous Soul,

Results are the focus of masculine practice. The process is the focus of feminine practice.

Honor the path. Bear witness to the process, cherish the unfolding. H.O.N.O.R. all the stages of the process: the openings & closings, the choreography, the ups & downs, the symphony.

IMG_0870Listen to music! There we don’t focus on the end, on the final chord – no, it’s the unfolding, the relations between the chords, the interplay between sound & silence, the dance between loud & quiet. Listening to music is a feminine practice.

In the same way let us cherish our life and our Dharma path. There are bending & curves, bridges & tunnels, open land & foggy forests. There are moments of action & celebration and there are moments of withdrawal & resting.

Let us see through the veils and perceive the Divine Choreography. Let us honor the ways how the Mystery unfolds itself through us. Our longing is
the seed that the Mystery has planted into our hearts so that we humans make use of our hearts & brains, hands & feet and manifest the formless mystery.

Sister, let go of the fruits. ❤ ❤ ❤

In deep honoring,
Uli, your Soul Sister